When your heart is broken, it can feel like the end of the world. No amount of pain has ever felt so agonizing. It is like a giant hole pummeled into your chest, with no hope of repair. A #broken_heart can happen in varying degrees, result from different causes, come in different severities, and heal at different speeds.
It’s an emptiness that can only be filled by one thing — the one thing you promised to push from your mind because it poisons your thoughts with the shadows it casts on all other thoughts. The condition is a disconnect between your mind and your physical presence.
Remembering how you felt in a moment, panicking over the distance between this moment and your memory sends shivers on your skin and ripples through your veins. You feel paralyzed by your inability to change your circumstance; trapped in your heartbreak.
#Heartbreak, whatever its cause, is universal and we’re all so insurmountably human, so desperately connected to something or someone. When you go through a breakup, the only thing you want to do is be alone. Instead, you need to go out and do some of the activities that bring you joy.
Most of us have to cope with being dumped at some point in life. It has certainly happened to me. It's common for heartbroken individuals to believe that no one else on earth could possibly fill the gap left by the ex-partner.
The truth is that in the worst moments of despair, we all tend to feel that nothing nice will ever happen again, but just because we feel that way it doesn't mean it's true.
So, how can you #get_over_your_ex_like_a_boss?
Well, the first step towards a new positive future is to finally accept that your ex-partner has gone and will not be coming back. This means facing your grief and allowing yourself to cry for the loss of your emotional investment, maybe even some finances, hopes and dreams.
The next important thing is to lean on your friends and to talk about your ex until you have no words left to say. You will know you are getting better when you realize that you are actually bored with the subject yourself. Talking is the key to feeling better. When we talk about our hurt it gradually ceases to have power over us and then we recover.
Physical activity lifts our mood. It helps to boost happy chemicals (endorphins) in the brain. It also sends a very important message to the brain, which is that we are taking care of ourselves and that we're worth bothering with.
Many are more likely to drown their sorrows in a lot of alcohol; but booze is not the answer. In fact, it often makes people even more sad and miserable than they were already.
When we get dumped we tend to take the blame on our own shoulders. We mentally beat ourselves up for not being more fun or more intelligent, or more attractive. Just for a change allow yourself to feel your own goodness. Learning to accept and value your own kindness, beauty and talent is very healing.
The most important step in moving on after being left behind is freeing yourself from the slavery of constantly thinking of your #ex. You cannot be friends with your ex. This means Facebook friends, Twitter pals, Instagram followers; it’s all a one-way ticket to holding on far longer than the necessary and healthy timeline.
#Relationships are about sacrifice and a lot of times we subconsciously (and consciously) abandon the things that made us happy in order to spend time with or tend to our romantic partners. Now start doing things for the sheer purpose of experiencing joy. If you designate some time for doing things you choose to do, with people you choose to do them with, you’ll get to know yourself in such a deep way that no one will be able to drag you from your individual passions in the future.
Once #newly_single you start discovering all that you’ve missed out on or overlooked, your perspective on being dumped will begin to change, and you’ll start to see it for the blessing that it truly is!
If someone doesn’t want to be with you, they’re just not worthy of you. When you're dumped, it's easy to yearn for the person who #dumped you, to want to try to fix it, to make things better. But the truth is, if they don't want to be with you, they're probably not the one for you. Be grateful that an unworthy suitor has let you off the hook, and move on. 🚶🚶🚶🚶🚶
